Parenting Fails

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Surabhi Agrawal

Being a parent is one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences a person can have. It’s also a journey that is full of learning experiences, and some of them might be considered as “Parenting Fails”.

It’s important to remember that being a parent is not a perfect job, and everyone makes mistakes. In this article, we will explore some common parenting fails and how to learn from them.


Setting Unrealistic Expectations

One of the most common parenting fails is setting unrealistic expectations for ourselves and our children.

This may involve expecting our children to be perfect, always obey, or excel in every subject at school or whatever they take up.

It can also involve expecting ourselves to be perfect parents, who never lose their temper or make mistakes.

Setting unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and frustration for both parents and children. Instead, it’s important to have realistic expectations and to focus on progress rather than perfection.

It should be more about learning rather than showing results.

Being Overprotective

Another common parenting fail is being overprotective of our children. This may involve not allowing them to take risks, make mistakes, or experience disappointment.

It can also involve constantly monitoring their activities, or not giving them enough independence and freedom.

Being overprotective can prevent children from developing important life skills, such as problem-solving, resilience, and independence.

Instead, it’s important to provide children with appropriate guidance, boundaries and opportunities to learn from their mistakes.

Teaching children that making mistakes is part and parcel of learning rather than being a perfectionist.

Being Too Strict

Another common parenting fail is being too strict.

This may involve having strict rules, strict schedules, and strict consequences for misbehavior. It can also involve being too controlling, and not allowing children to make their own choices.

Being too strict can lead to a lack of trust and communication between parents and children.

Instead, it’s important to find a balance between setting boundaries and allowing children to make their own choices.

Sometimes being lenient, forgiving or simply joining forces with children can make them realize their mistakes faster than controlling or shouting at them.

Being Too Lenient

On the other hand, being too lenient can also be a parenting fail. This may involve not having any rules or consequences, not enforcing boundaries, and not setting expectations.

It can also involve giving in to children’s demands, not disciplining them, or not holding them accountable for their actions.

Being too lenient can lead to children feeling insecure, unprepared for life and not understanding the importance of rules and boundaries. Instead, it’s important to provide children with appropriate guidance and discipline that teach them valuable life skills.

We all want to give the best to our children, but being lenient, not setting rules, or taking things for granted will not work in your child’s favor in the long run.

Comparing Children

Another common parenting fail is comparing children to others.

This may involve comparing their behavior, their achievements, or their appearance to other children. It can also involve comparing them to a parent or a grandparent, or even to oneself.

Comparing children can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and resentment.

Instead, it’s important to focus on each child’s unique strengths and abilities, and to celebrate their individual accomplishments.

Each child is different and although we know this fact, at times, we do tend to compare our children with other children! However, comparing can work in a positive way too! Sometimes, children take it as a challenge to be better than the compared child and the result can be positive. But we need to be careful, where and what we compare. Also, this will not work all the time.


In conclusion, parenting is not a perfect job and everyone makes mistakes. Common parenting fails such as setting unrealistic expectations, being overprotective, being too strict or too lenient and comparing children are common mistakes that all parents make at some point in time.

However, by understanding and responding to these parenting fails with patience and compassion, parents can strive to raise their children to become well-adjusted, responsible, and successful adults.

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